Navigating the world of allyship can sometimes feel like walking through a maze blindfolded. One major reason why allyship can feel so complicated is that it asks us to see the need for it, even when it’s not waving a big red flag in our faces. Conversations can feel like they’re on fast-forward, and in those quick moments, it’s a real task to sort through your emotions, understand someone else’s feelings, and figure out how to lend a hand. But giving it a shot is not just necessary; it’s the right thing to do. Another stumbling block on our path to being real allies? Good ol’ judgment.

Amid the whirlwind of speedy chats, it’s essential to spot the need for support and get this – that support might go against what you’re feeling personally. Yep, embracing allyship means offering your support even when you’re in the dark about the whole situation. It’s a big ask, but hey, let’s take a deep breath and remind ourselves that it’s okay not to nail it every time. So here’s a friendly nudge with three practical allyship tips to keep you on the right track more often: don’t just brush off issues, dive into topics you’d generally skip and listen up, and hey, it’s okay not to have all the answers, just create a space where learning feels right at home.

Allyship and Judgment – Navigating the Fine Line

We’re all human, and judgment? Well, it comes with the territory. The real kicker is telling apart the judgments that keep us safe from those throwing a wrench in our mission to foster an inclusive environment. The trick to getting better? Practice, and then some more practice. Kick off by acknowledging that judgment can be a real party-pooper and accepting that hey, we’re not always the ones with the right answers. With these in mind, start a self-check journey. Observe your judgments, question their roots – are they fact or just belief? Think about whether your judgment is a safety net or a wall making someone feel left out. The more you get the hang of noticing and sidelining these judgmental thoughts, the more you’ll understand why it’s hard to let them slide.

Questions – Your Trusty Tool in Building Allyship

Let’s talk about questions – those powerful, yet underused tools in building allyship. In the rush of life, we sometimes forget the goldmine of asking and exploring. Taking the time to pop questions not only boosts our understanding but also paves the way for including others in the talk, expanding our view by welcoming all sorts of different perspectives. Real questions, the kind that invite diverse viewpoints, might suggest a need for change and admit past mistakes, but isn’t it better to switch to a better track sooner rather than later?

Carving Out Space – The Final Step in Allyship

And here we are at the final step in our allyship journey, which might feel like stepping onto a tightrope – it’s all about others. Use your spot to carve out space for those with insights. Like, an executive might invite feedback on a specific issue, making a place where every voice gets a mic and a listener. This move shines a light on your support and opens the doors for fresh perspectives, giving everyone a win. This is where allyship gets real and alive.

Wrapping it Up

In a nutshell, allyship isn’t a one-and-done deal. It’s an ongoing journey that kicks off within, facing and tussling with your judgments. Let new possibilities bloom, and be gentle in your self-checks. Give yourself a pat on the back for learning and taking steps in the right direction. When you’re all set, start rolling out opportunities for others, soak in the vulnerability, and bask in the joy of watching diverse voices shine. And guess what’s the cherry on top? The heartfelt thanks from those you stand by – now that’s a sweet, unexpected treat in your journey to effective allyship.

Catch you on the path.

Dr. Lisa

Our theme song is “Stand by Me” by Natalie Cole.